I'm not sure why I'm not getting dates

By Michael Myerscough

Have you ever checked your matches the day after a speed dating event and found that the person you thought was a dead cert hasn’t ticked you?

Do you consistently get fewer matches than you’d like?

Do you ever find yourself wondering what you’re getting wrong?

If you’ve read the other free tips on the website and you’re still none the wiser, then you may want to take a look the ‘Market Value Wheel’. It’s a really quick way of working out what could be getting in your way.

Your market value

Leil Lowndes, the author of “How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You”, states that we all have a market value. This is based on things like: physical appearance, financial health, social status, wisdom, social graces, even your inner nature is evaluated. You’ll notice that all of these are included in your scoring on the market value wheel.

I wasn’t sure about the concept of market value in the beginning but after doing some research of my own, I think it would be foolish to ignore the implications.

Let’s say that each person gets a score out of 10 based on the criteria above. What would your perfect partner score? It’s a really interesting exercise, particularly when you understand that happy daters are rarely more than two points away from each other on balance.

However, it is possible to trade across currency.  For example, let’s say you’re not so hot in the looks department but you’re loaded and great in bed then you may still be able to attract a Brad Pitt or a Catherine Zeta Jones. You know this is true because every time you see some older guy with a gorgeous model for a companion it’s assumed he’s either wealthy or an amazingly sensitive lover.

Don’t take my word for it.  Instead, start looking around for yourself.  If you only take physical appearance as an example, the people who are within two points of each other are generally happier and more affectionate in public.

Working with Speeddater one reason has become clear for the people who remain single longest and that is their expectations are totally unrealistic. Either that or they’re just looking to have a lot more fun, which is great so long as both parties are clear.

Briefly put, if you want the best in your partner you’d better be the best.  And that requires work. Maybe seeing a stylist about your wardrobe, invest in a personal trainer or more importantly work with a dating coach about upping your self esteem and getting positive again. Many singles are a tad jaded and it tends to come across badly, especially to potential partners.

If after taking the quiz you’re still not clear on how to fix what ever it is that’s getting in your way then it might be worth having a conversation with one of the coaches.

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